Three traps that prevent finding love have been identified

Psychologist Mark Travers, in a column for Forbes, described three common mental attitudes that can isolate a person from love and close relationships. These "traps" are often perceived as ways of self-protection, but in reality, they only intensify feelings of loneliness.

1. Hyper-independence instead of healthy boundaries

The desire to do everything independently and refuse help from others may not be a manifestation of strength, but rather a reaction to past pain and disappointments. According to Travers, such behavior can lead to chronic loneliness, even if it is initially perceived as freedom.

2. Withdrawal at the slightest discomfort

A "zero tolerance" approach to others' mistakes or imperfections can hinder the formation of stable connections. Constant vigilance and readiness to reject others at the first sign of discomfort prevent the establishment of trusting relationships.

3. Using boundaries for avoidance rather than conscious choice

People often confuse self-giving with compliance. When helping others becomes an obligation rather than a free choice, it leads to burnout. The psychologist emphasizes: it's important to distinguish between situations where generosity should be shown and moments when one needs to preserve their resources.

According to the specialist, the ability to build flexible boundaries and consciously interact with others helps not only to protect oneself but also to remain open to love and intimacy.